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in our family?
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Help! My teen is a RUNAWAY!
The Tools For Change:
The Total Transformation Program
Recommended by Focus Adolescent Services
for Parents and Professionals
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Total Transformation, an at-home program for parents,
can help your troubled and struggling teen
and heal your family
PARENTS get the tools to help solve real-life behavior problems in children and teens.
CHILDREN and TEENS understand accountability and accept responsibility for their actions.
PROFESSIONALS get a tool to help reinforce individual and family therapy, counseling, coaching, and other interventions.
EDUCATORS and YOUTH WORKERS get the tools to reinforce pro-social behavior and learn better ways of managing disruptive behaviors encountered in the school or program setting.
Total Transformation is a guided training program that uses cognitive learning theory and behavioral management techniques to help children and teens change their behavior.
Total Transformation's tools for change include:
16 Characteristics and Practices of Children and Teens with Disrespectful Behavior. Rather than seeing their child's behavior as unmanageable emotion, parents can learn to "read" and understand it. A close-up look at The Victim Stance, Uniqueness, One-Way Boundaries, Fake Apologies, The Turnaround, and more.
7 Ineffective Parenting Styles. Bottomless Pockets, The Over-Negotiator, The Ticket Puncher, The Screamer, The Martyr, The Savior, The Perfectionist. An eye-opening yet nonjudgmental approach that helps parents identify styles that are ineffective -- and learn new roles that are effective in communicating with children and teens.
There's No Excuse for Abuse. How to put a stop to a child's physical and verbal abuse.
Culture of Accountability. A practical way to get kids to stop blaming others for their problems and take responsibility for their behavior.
Disconnect. The words to say and steps to take to stop arguments and tantrums once they start -- and before they start.
Consequences not "Punishment." A unique approach to consequences that teaches and motivates children to change, and then gives them the actual steps to do so.
The Myth of Self-Esteem. False self-esteem leads to a sense of entitlement and does not promote behavioral change. Total Transformation gives parents a way to promote genuine self-esteem through accomplishment in their children.
The Alternative Response. A problem-solving dialogue that helps young people identify what triggers their inappropriate behavior and then choose a better behavioral strategy next time.
Focus Adolescent Services, an affiliate partner with Legacy Publishing Company, highly recommends the Total Transformation Program for both parents and professionals.
Developed by James Lehman MSW, LCSW
Once an out-of control child himself, James Lehman has worked with behaviorally-troubled youth and their parents for over 30 years.
In public schools, residential treatment centers, private schools, and numerous outpatient and inpatient settings, James has developed an approach to managing children and adolescents that challenge them to learn to solve social problems without hiding behind a façade of disrespectful, obnoxious, or abusive behavior.
James was abandoned at age two by parents who were unable to take care of him. After being adopted by the Lehman family, he began to exhibit oppositional behavior at home and in the classroom.
Eventually he quit school, left home, and drifted into a life of substance abuse and crime, which led to numerous prison sentences.
After more than six years in various prisons and institutions, James participated in an accountability-based treatment program that he credits with saving his life.
James went on to attend Fordham University and obtained a Bachelor's Degree in Social Work and a Master's Degree in Social Work from Boston University.
Throughout his career in private practice, James has frequently provided training and consultation to public schools, treatment centers, and state agencies.
The Total Transformation Program was developed to expand this training to families and professionals.
In my clinical work with behaviorally disordered children and teens, I have found that youth with behavioral and emotional problems need to be empowered with skills to manage their daily functioning and social/behavioral interactions. In my experience, children with a wide variety of diagnoses share one common characteristic: the inability to solve the problems they encounter on a daily basis. Correspondingly, mental health providers and family workers are increasingly confronted with parents who do not know how to teach their children the skills they need to solve these day-today social problems. Unempowered parents cannot empower children. -- James Lehman MSW, LCSW
The Total Transformation takes a highly specific, prescriptive approach to parent/child
communication, providing parents with an understanding of how to recognize and “decode” the cognitive distortions presented to them during interactions with their children. The program then offers parents effective verbal responses to these thinking errors as well as strategies for use in and outside the home. The objective of the program is to provide parents with a practical way to change their child's thinking to achieve appropriate behavior. -- James Lehman MSW, LCSW
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